My grandmother passed away rather suddenly and unexpectedly last Friday and a memorial has been planned for this Saturday at the adult/retirement community where she resided. I'm completely lost on how to address this with our six year old daughter. My daughter had just interacted with her not even a week prior at Christmas.
Part of me thinks she should be there to honor my grandmother's life, but the other part of me thinks it may not be appropriate for an individual who doesn't understand death and the proper protocol for these services. She is a good kid and we can obviously go over how she needs to act but, like any kindergartner, it is hard to get her to sit still for any long period of time during serious subject matter.
My mind isn't really all that right either at this point. At Christmas she was doing great and was her usual self, then not even a week later I'm there watching her take her last breath in the ICU. Can't quite wrap my head on how to explain that to a six-year-old, if she needs to be involved in anything greater than just an explanation of why her great grandmother won't be around any longer, etc.
Any input, insight, advise, past experiences, etc would be greatly appreciated.